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No matter who you are, what language you speak or where you come from, music is a Universal language that we can all understand, and enjoy. Music is as old as humanity itself and may have even begun before we began to create languages. It’s difficult for archeologists and historians to pinpoint as prehistoric instruments were made from soft materials like reeds, wood and animal skins and haven’t survived, the oldest being a flute made from bone. So, what is the function of music? Why has it survived and continued to evolve alongside humanity? In today’s blog I will shed a little more light on the magic of music and sound and how it contributes to our overall wellbeing. 

A brief history of music

So when did humans start to play music and why? Where did it start and what were the first instruments created? We listen to music everyday and it’s such a big part of our lives, memories, traditions, cultures, it brings people together! Some suggest that music helped create and form society itself. We all have a different idea of what constitutes sounds being called “music”, for example, I may consider a mother humming to her baby music, but you may not. Aside from that, the first music to have been created was likely singing, using the voice and then rhythm, created by hand clapping or sticks and stones being tapped together. Some of the oldest instruments found are flutes made from bone which date back to about 40 000 yrs ago. Simpler instruments like drums, shakers and rattles are thought to have existed before that, however being made of weaker more biodegradable materials, have not survived. 

Our tribal hunter gatherer ancestors played music and danced around the fire before a hunt to bring people into a cohesive group, and after to enjoy the success of the hunt together, for entertainment, happiness. Flutes are thought to have been used to attract birds for hunting, for survival. Drums were used in sacrifices and military processions. Music was played to Kings and Queens in courts and castles. It has been shared amongst peoples through exploration and the trade routes, instruments and melodies evolving over the ages as new sounds were discovered. Music forms a big part of ritual and religions. Music keeps workers happy when doing repetitive or boring work, thus increasing productivity. 

Music and Yoga

In the Indus valley about 3500 years ago, the Vedas: 4 “books of knowledge” were created and are regarded by Hindus as the sacred foundation of their religion. The Vedas embrace a multitude of texts and interpretations in ancient Sanskrit comprised of poetry, hymns, philosophical dialogue, rituals, myths, mantra and musical arrangements in 4 parts: the Rig, Yajur, Sama and Athar Vedas. Originally passed down orally and preserved by Brahmin priests chanting the verses in a very specific way. To ensure that the sound of each word remains unaltered, practitioners are taught from childhood complex recitation techniques that are based on tonal accents, a unique manner of pronouncing each letter and specific speech combinations. 

Mantra is a form of meditation using a sound, word, or phrase recited silently or aloud and are often combined with breath and rhythm. At its core, it harnesses the inexplicable, inseparable human connection to sound and has been purposefully composed to produce a certain effect on the mind and the body. Chanting is a deep devotional practice (bhakti) to be done with care and respect of the culture from which it comes. When the correct technique is used, chanting can help to alleviate anxiety and stress and improve one’s mood. Humming, like when practicing Brahmari (bee breath) or chanting Om can boost the production of nitric oxide in the body which helps regulate the nervous, immune, and cardiovascular systems. This in turn, can help increase blood flow and promote muscle relaxation.

Sound and wellbeing

Sound has long been used by ancient peoples to heal and explore altered states of consciousness. Aborigines used the didgeridoo over 40 000 years ago as a sound healing instrument. Tibetan singing bowls have long been used in spiritual ceremonies. Sound and mantra meditation is a form of focused awareness type of meditation. One kind that has become more popular is called “sound baths”, which uses Tibetan/quartz singing bowls, gongs, bells, tuning forks and voice to guide the listener. These practices show how sound manifests not only through hearing but through tactile physical vibrations and frequencies. Although science is still catching up to understanding how sound heals, sound-based vibration treatment has been shown to improve stress, anxiety, pain from arthritis, fibromyalgia, stiffness, and increases blood circulation and lowers blood pressure. 

Binaural Beats and Solfeggio frequencies

Sounds emit a frequency which is measured in Hertz (Hz). These frequencies are said to have different effects on our body, mind and emotions. The human brain is essentially an electrical device, with different tasks and emotional states generating various frequencies. There are 5 widely recognized brainwaves (gamma, beta, delta, theta, alpha), each having a distinct purpose in helping us how to think, behave, move and process information. If our physiology, diet or environment causes an over or underproduction of a certain brainwave, it can alter the balance of our bodies and induce many negative effects such as insomnia, anger, stress, learning difficulties or anxiety. This is why it’s key to optimize our brains for a better wave balance, rather than aiming to increase or decrease a particular one. 

Solfeggio frequencies make up a 6-tone music scale, which was used in religious music of the 10th century, first introduced by Benedictine monk Guido d’Arezzo, and are most commonly associated with the Gregorian chants. They were lost over time and were rediscovered by Dr Joseph Puleo in the 1970’s. Solfeggio frequencies are widely used today in sound therapy. (They also relate to the chakras/energy centres within the body)

  1. 396 Hz – Associated with Liberating Guilt and Fear
  2. 417 Hz – Associated with Undoing Situations and Facilitating Change
  3. 528 Hz – Associated with Transformation and Miracles (DNA Repair)
  4. 639 Hz – Associated with Connecting/Relationships
  5. 741 Hz – Associated with Expression/Solutions
  6. 852 Hz – Associated with Returning to Spiritual Order

Binaural Beats involve playing two slightly different frequencies simultaneously, creating a perceived third frequency that impacts brainwave activity. Used in relaxation, meditation, and focus enhancement and can induce states conducive to astral projections and lucid dreaming.

The crescendo

Music influences the limbic system of the brain through pitch and rhythm, affecting our emotions, feelings and sensations. Ancient cultures understood the power of rhythm, harmonics and tone. Music is vibration, and everything in nature is vibrating, resonating at different frequencies. So, sounds played at specific frequencies with the right intention, have the power to effect healing. When it comes to your health and wellbeing, you could certainly benefit from exploring some of these sound healing modalities like listening to Binaural beats before bed or trying brainwave entrainment like what we offer here at Samahita on our Brain Health Upgrade program or joining the weekly gong/sound meditation. As new research continues, it will be exciting to see the potential impact of future sound technologies and how they will evolve in entertainment, retail, healthcare and beyond! For now though, simply consider the kind of music you listen to while commuting to the office, when you’re working out, practicing yoga, working or relaxing. The impact of your musical choices will have an effect on you, so notice these differences and continue to explore the magic of music!

References: 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_music 

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2017/06/170620093153.htm 

https://www.musicianwave.com/history-of-music/ 

https://www.healthline.com/health/sound-healing 

https://thehumancondition.com/sound-healing-therapy/ 

https://mindeasy.com/the-9-solfeggio-frequencies-and-their-benefits/ 

https://www.mindvibrations.com/solfeggio-frequencies/ 

https://ich.unesco.org/en/RL/tradition-of-vedic-chanting-00062 

https://www.healthline.com/health/mind-body/mantras-for-anxiety 

https://lucid.me/blog/5-brainwaves-delta-theta-alpha-beta-gamma/ 


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The Ripple Effect… https://samahitaretreat.com/therippleeffect/ https://samahitaretreat.com/therippleeffect/#respond Tue, 10 Oct 2023 04:54:30 +0000 https://samahitaretreat.com/?p=60574 The post The Ripple Effect… appeared first on Samahita Retreat.

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“Just as ripples spread out when a single pebble is dropped into water, the actions of individuals can have far-reaching effects.” Dalai Lama

Oftentimes in life we walk around like zombies or do things out of habit with not much awareness and little thought of the consequences. Perhaps you’ve heard the saying: “For every action, there’s an equal or opposite re-action.” So what does this metaphor mean and how much of an impact does this have on our lives and others’? In today’s blog we’ll explore the effects of our actions, thoughts and efforts and how they ripple outwards into the world…

The science behind the ripple effect

Everything we do in life bears a consequence, either positive or negative. Every choice we make from something as simple as deciding to exercise in the morning or smile at the stranger on the bus impacts our lives. Philosophers and scientists have been theorizing about the mysteries of the Universe since the 1600’s. Galileo and Descartes came up with their ideas to explain cause and effect, paving the way for Newton’s laws of motion and gravitation. At the time, the mathematical equations were so powerful that scientists came to believe that everything in the Universe could be determined and calculated simply by applying the math – determinism. Quantum mechanics then started to take the spotlight and in the 1920’s, Einstein came up with the Unified Field Theory. In the 60’s meteorologist Edward Lorenz then coined the term “Butterfly effect” (Part of Chaos Theory) in which he determines that it was virtually impossible to forecast long term weather predictions as nature is far too complex and minute variables can have far reaching interconnected consequences. In a nutshell, all these theories and mathematical equations are attempting to explain how matter/particles interact with each other and gravity/electromagnetism and time on a subatomic level. When you go down far enough, beyond particles or matter, there is only energy, and since everything is energy, how are you directing YOURS and what impact does it have on your life and in the world?…

You are not powerless

In this day and age we are closely connected to each other through our access to information, travel, advances in technology and the sharing of ideas. We live in a global village, we share global problems like pollution, poverty and corruption, but we somehow feel that most of things are out of our hands and we can’t really do much to create positive changes, we get despondent. But we can, just by starting with ourselves, not getting caught up in the complexity of it all, simply doing your bit. Think about the past, historical events that have taken place, how changes in society have come about, they didn’t happen overnight. They were created by the ripple effect, actions of the few that have influenced the many, over time. As individuals we certainly do have the power to make a

difference and instead of pointing fingers, blaming and wasting time on what other people are doing, we can all think, what am I doing, daily. As they say – Be the change you wish to see in the world.

Helper’s high!

Life is not easy, nor is it meant to be, there is much suffering and pain. But in between the difficulties and challenges of life, there is also joy, happiness, kindness and compassion. It is in our human nature to help others when we see they are in distress. Scientific research shows that helping others brings happiness to yourself, acts of kindness releases those feel good hormones, a phenomenon known as helpers high. The power of the kindness-ripple effect has the ability to change our emotional, psychological and social wellbeing. Research has shown that practicing meditation increases our empathy and compassion for others. It changes one’s perspective, shifting away from the me and mine Self, allowing the mind and heart to open to others. Compassion is not just a passive practice/word, it is a verb, requiring action, a response.

A Bodhisattva-in-Training…

In Buddhist teachings, there is a Sanskrit term for a being who is headed for enlightenment and encompasses the qualities of compassion and altruism (unselfish concern for the welfare of others): Bodhisattva. We may not be able to liberate ALL beings from pain and suffering but we can work on ourselves and find ways to help others along the way, especially within our own communities. We can become a Bodhisattva-in-Training, following a path that is more meaningful and fulfilling. Samahita has always been involved in supporting organizations and charities, being as sustainable as we can be, doing our bit to make a difference.  So where to begin? It doesn’t have to be perfect, it doesn’t need to be on social media, just start. Begin today, with a small gesture, a kind word, a smile… A smile that can ripple out into the world!

References:

https://medium.com/the-abs-tract-organization/the-ripple-effect-8c8495d46554
https://yourstory.com/2023/07/butterfly-effect-small-actions-big-changes
https://exploringyourmind.com/the-theory-of-the-ripple-effect/
https://science.howstuffworks.com/math-concepts/butterfly-effect.htm
https://www.happiness.com/magazine/science-psychology/benefits-of-kindness/
https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/the_helpers_high


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Do You Ask for Help? https://samahitaretreat.com/do-you-ask-for-help/ https://samahitaretreat.com/do-you-ask-for-help/#respond Thu, 29 Jul 2021 02:20:54 +0000 http://samahitaretreat.com/?p=54406 The post Do You Ask for Help? appeared first on Samahita Retreat.

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How are things going for you lately? Some challenges? Nice surprises?
Do you stay evenly balanced through the challenge-surprise cycle? Or does it get wild? Does practice go on and off?

Have you ever heard that line how a man will never ask for directions so instead ends up driving all over the place, not actually finding his destination, but convinced (or really deluded) that he’s on the right track?
Or, does that sound familiar, more personal, to you?
And though in the case of travel directions it is most often portrayed as a male trait, all are victim to it (though we won’t get into this debate now :).

If it is the stereotypical male in the car saying “I know where it is”, and doesn’t, what is going on inside that head? And why can the … in this cliche story … woman sitting beside him feel freer to ask for directions? Of course in reality it has nothing to do with gender. It is one part social conditioning, and perhaps another part psychology.

Pride and self-preservation mix with delusion, in the form of mind (manas) and ego (ahankara) ruling as bedfellows. What happened to real intelligence, which is governed by the heart, whereby discernment dominates? Yet not in this case.

So it applies to all human beings equally – what will it take to ask for help? Simply. Humbly. Sincerely.

First, acknowledge “I know nothing.” In reality we know little, understand less, cannot really see what is going on because we don’t have the advantage of that (elevated) perspective. So to think one knows and has the solution is unsteady ground on which to tread.

Then, note “I have my intelligence of insight and can do my best to see what is going on now, in front of and around me, and I have some experience, a little bit of knowledge, to draw on.” It’s easy to imagine and make up a future in your head, worry about it or turn it into something fantastical. Memory is also fickle as we look at the past. So what do you know, now, from deep within?

This point is at the heart of ‘yoga’, ‘meditation’, ‘contemplative’ life, as the combination of virtue and discernment. Your own virtuous qualities will become evident in the situation you are facing. Meaning, how do you behave, treat others and yourself? This impacts how you see things. A clearer, sharper, yet virtuous mind is one that constantly discerns. Thereby understands the state of what is going on with them or others, now. This is different from “I know what is going on”.

Virtue and discernment lead to behavior and understanding.
That line is basically the distillation of an entire system of life philosophy.

” A clearer, sharper, yet virtuous mind is one that constantly discerns. Thereby understands the state of what is going on with them or others, now. This is different from “I know what is going on”……”

Virtue and discernment lead to behavior and understanding.
That line is basically the distillation of an entire system of life philosophy.

BUT …… there is another important aspect, out of “I don’t know,” where humility leads virtue and discernment. Then, one can ASK FOR HELP.

ah, well is that all it takes?
Simple really. Come from your heart and you won’t feel pride, shame, concern about how you’ll be judged or look. You can just simply ask for help.

In this case it’s acknowledging that there is no way I can figure any of this out. Hopefully I can stay sharp and clear and respond well as this fickle universe continues its game of constant flux and change.

So simply I ask for help.
But be specific. Do it as a morning open-your-day contemplation. Get absorbed into it. Be clear on what and where in life you need help, which often revert back to the level of virtue and discernment, often low or lacking, and from which issues arise.

Some feel it selfish and egotistical to ask for help. Then the understanding of asking for help is confused. Following the above example, if you are driving others and don’t know the way it is more selfish and egotistical to think you know the way and keep driving without asking, essentially putting that on others.

You ask for help, not for things. We all need help.

And help comes in subtle ways. So when some ask “but who do I ask for help from?” It’s not who or what, it’s tune into your heart, open up, see where you’re stuck, or what is stuck around you, and be simple and humble asking for help. Put it out there. It’s personal for you what you’ll associate that with. No one can or should dictate that for you. But if you are really in your heart the rest takes care of itself.

“But does it work?” Until you ask how would you know? How can anyone else tell you? I know my experience. And it’s powerful.
Tune in, in the heart.
Simple, humble, be specific.
Open up, no conditioned limitations blocking you (but unfortunately they’ll arise). And ask for help.

Make it part of your daily life.

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Empathy – What sets us Apart https://samahitaretreat.com/empathy-what-sets-us-apart/ https://samahitaretreat.com/empathy-what-sets-us-apart/#respond Thu, 25 Mar 2021 04:37:56 +0000 http://samahitaretreat.com/?p=54270 The post Empathy – What sets us Apart appeared first on Samahita Retreat.

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There are a myriad of responses to what is it that sets us apart? Apart from other species? Apart from other human beings? Apart from spirit itself? Apart from other beings in this multidimensional universe? In short, in keeping ourselves apart, separate from ourself, our center, others, we are automatically divided, separate, apart. The distinction appears to be in a mindset that flows towards connection with ourself and with others, or it flows away from who we are at our core and away from the well-being of others. Do we see division, problems, issues, people to blame? Is there an inner connection beyond an imagined or verbally justified one when communicating with others?

The linchpin here is empathy. Yes. Empathy sets us apart. Not necessarily human beings and other species as empathy is observed in other creatures. Empathy, or its lack, seems to separate people, its lack blocking the inner connection, the spiritual quest, setting us apart from ourselves in reality. Its lack acts as a dividing factor, a block in intercommunication.

So what is empathy? In a simple sense, can you feel, sense, and viscerally understand what another person, or creature, is going through? Your pet dog or cat just might have that with you as they snuggle up to you when you’re not feeling great. And they want the same. A child might express it innocently as they feel it and come to comfort you. Or your local neighborhood dolphin is well tapped into it. It seems we are all capable of it. Even cruel tyrants felt it for those they cared about. Such empathy, though, becomes situational and fleeting. Can we embody it all the time in all situations? Some studies refer to empathic burn out. Though a real event, it is the opposite end of the empathic spectrum to the tyrant’s case. And yet it is not a robust response either.

“A greater understanding of how people behave, the nature of this world as out of balance, its place as a tricky learning ground of a variety of experiences can strengthen, not replace, your empathy.

Balance is key. Empathic maturity. Which blends into compassion. Maybe we can call this empathy-with-understanding. This form of robust empathy comes loaded with kindness, strength, and caring. Your empathy will lead to kind behavior, you will care, you will also be a strong support, not getting burnt out, which means not identifying with the other’s situation though feeling and understanding it all the same. This is important for an overall spiritual evolution, both personally and collectively. The more you can connect within, the greater empathy and compassion are but also the greater their balance. Radiate it from your heart as opposed to it overpowering you. It becomes a self-perpetuating, reinforcing process, deeper within, greater empathy without.

As a careful observer of human behavior, recently I was considering certain human responses to certain people in certain situations (conveniently vague here), and that politeness seemed not be present, kindness was not forthcoming, a lack of understanding of the other’s case was rampant, with little supportive behavior to help the other, whereby a trigger for a whole cascade of positive effects was just lost. It brought up my empathy actually, feeling the lack of this set of behaviors. And of course that hurts the heart as we want to see a world improving. The understanding is, unfortunately, some people behave without an empathic sensibility to others. Though I know there is little I can do about that personally in many people’s cases, I can do something by tuning into it myself, bringing it up in my own practice, delving into forgiveness from there, so whoever I interact with it is present. That in its small way is a shift in the right direction. And it keeps it robust and avoids falling victim to empathic burn out.

Yet it seems it’s easy to forget and fall into situational empathy, when it suits and to whom you feel it is appropriate. But it is something, a ‘muscle’, you could flex everyday as you look around you. It will rise more naturally in how you feel when you see other creatures or people in some uncomfortable situation. And our response? Kind and care. We have a choice in how to respond but empathy is automatic from inside. If it’s not then it can be built, if focused on. And if you believe you feel empathy that involves strong emotionality then a greater understanding of how people behave, the nature of this world as out of balance, its place as a tricky learning ground of a variety of experiences can strengthen, not replace, your empathy.

Come from the heart. Be kind-hearted. In effect, pure of heart. That may be the answer to the final question posed above, communication with other life forms (beyond this planet) are waiting for our collective empathetic levels to rise because then ’they’ know it’s a good time to visit and share their learnings in this universe. But that aside, for now build it into a daily forgiveness practice, as our brief video in this email highlights.

In empathic love, care, and kindness, on earth or amongst the stars, being centered is still crucial.

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How fascinating it is that the human heart, the muscular mega-pump that delivers oxygenated blood around our bodies and the center of our circulatory systems, is also the center of our emotions. Its emotional capacity is vast, from the ability to feel love, compassion and to care very deeply, to sadness, pain, anger and even hate.

“The ability to have compassion for others depends first on our ability to be in touch with our yearnings and pain. Pain opens us to deeper understanding of others and expands our own limited being.” – Anodea Judith

At a recent visit to Cambodia I stood at a mass grave of 450 people at one of the main killing fields, feeling physical pain in my heart, as tears started to roll down my face. It was too much endure for long. I wondered how I could feel so deeply for something that happened in another country 40 years ago, to the point of feeling genuine pain. I knew about the atrocities that occurred there before going. So what was it that I was experiencing while I was actually there at the site of all the violence? Pain for those that suffered. Utter sadness at the brutality possible from one human to another. Grief for the country. Fear that we are no better in the world right now. All of it. I wondered what happened the perpetrators hearts to be able to murder their fellow country-men, women and children.

These were the thoughts that stayed with me as I walked around, sensitive to the dark energy of the mass graves, staring in disbelief at the piles of skulls in the memorial temple, and for long after. It made me think about the full capacity of the human heart and the influences that determine whether the emotional heart develops with compassion, kindness, caring, versus being blocked-off to love and harboring hate.

Naturally the violent acts came from somewhere. In this case the power-hungry Khmer Rouge recruited poor villagers, often teenagers, and trained them to torture and kill in the name of Communism vs. Capitalism. The villagers joined out of fear of not having other options in life, with anger instilled in them against city people who were painted as capitalists stealing all the wealth. It was fear and anger that fueled the hate and violence. Turning people against each other from a pointless cause — how many times has this happened in human history and continues to take place today. The ‘them and us’ approach used to divide and pit people against each other, which never seems to work except to benefit those with the mission. We can do better, I know.

“The good news is that “us and them” does not have to mean “us versus them.” Instead, it can remind us of the ancient tradition of hospitality to the stranger and give us a chance to translate it into twenty-first century terms. Hospitality rightly understood is premised on the notion that the stranger has much to teach us. It actively invites “otherness” into our lives to make them more expansive, including forms of otherness that seem utterly alien to us. Of course, we will not practice deep hospitality if we do not embrace the creative possibilities inherent in our differences.” ~ Parker J. Palmer’s Habits of the Heart

The reality is, we all have the ability to love or to hate. We might think we are above violence of that sort, but how many little ways do we contribute to the harm of others every day in our words or thoughts? Hate for a politician, or a criminal, or a racist, is still hate. I know I have had those thoughts and feelings and said I hate something. It doesn’t feel good. It separates and divides. Whereas there is nothing more beautiful than feeling deep love. And in a state of feeling love it’s practically impossible to feel hate. It also goes that as hate fuels hate, as does love fuel love. Love can be cultivated simply by practicing giving more love.

Is love all we need though? How do we lift a country out of racism, for example, if not by fighting it? Activism with compassion, understanding and action is a way that many teach. I can despair at the sad state of the world and unending brutalities but I can also marvel at the continued movement towards positive activism and an openness within myself and others to learn and live the philosophies that promote compassion over violence. Yoga teaches ‘ahimsa’ or causing the least amount of harm on the world. Buddhism teaches compassion for all. The original concept of all religions contain some ideology around treating all people with kindness. Easier said then done but I believe it’s up to all of us individually instead of relying on leaders to show the way. We are the ones that need to learn how to develop a kind heart, and to lead by example by actually practicing kindness in the place of fear and anger. Feeling the pain of ‘the other side’ and attempting to dismantle those barriers, those walls. Cultivating the heart in the right way by being mindful of the words we use, the thoughts we have about others.

There are many reasons for the heart to become bitter, blocked, contracted and unable to express its full capacity of love. Childhood trauma, abuse or neglect for sure contribute to difficulties expressing the full capacity of one’s heart. In the book Eastern Body Western Mind, the author, Anodea Judith, describes how abuse and lack of love growing up can affect someone:

“Abuse is the antithesis of love. If we do not get the love we need, we lack the basic ingredient necessary to assemble ourselves…Abuse interferes with our love of life. If life hurts, or is lonely, rejecting, empty, hostile, or dangerous, then we do not want to relate to it. Life becomes a painful experience, a process to be endured. We no longer love being alive; we no longer meet life with hope and enthusiasm. We become withdrawn, depressed, blocked.”

An unsteady foundation as a child therefore can lead to an adult walking around with a deep sense of not feeling good enough, perhaps trying to do good in the world, but really inside suffering with a deep dislike of themselves. The author adds:

“The most common block in the heart chakra is the absence of self-love. How can we have intimacy with others if we are distanced from our own self? How can we reach out to others when we are drowning in shame and criticism? How can we maintain balance between ourselves and others if we have no balance within? How can we treat another with respect if we treat our own selves abusively?”

Experiencing hatred and discrimination anytime in life can of course cause someone to live in fear that easily turns into anger and hatred. They can hardly be blamed. But when you are able to overcome fear and to learn self-love, you gain courage and empathy. For those of us privileged enough to not be experiencing discrimination, violence, hatred or oppression in our lives we can make efforts to take care of our hearts and to heal what needs to be healed within ourselves, which naturally has a positive affect on others.

To practically develop the full capacity of our hearts and to overcome its shadow side involves effort — to practice care, to practice love, to be kind, to be active in its cultivation. Therapy can be useful for dealing with past pain. While yoga, breath work and meditation are all shown to help overcome healthy heart blockers such as stress, anxiety and depression by improving vagal tone. The vagus nerve reports back to our brains what’s going on in our organs, including the heart, lungs and gut. “Stimulation of the vagus nerves by yoga based practices, corrects parasympathetic nervous system under activity leading to correction of GABA under activity” – Paul Dallaghan. GABA is an amino acid that acts as a neurotransmitter in the central nervous system, inhibiting nerve transmission in the brain and calming nervous activity.

One such practice, the daily contemplation that we teach at Samahita is a powerful way to cultivate a kind heart. A short daily practice that first focuses on gratitude for all in our lives. Then looking at forgiveness, asking for it from others and saying sorry, and offering it to others and to ourselves, to clear our hearts from pain, guilt, shame. Finally, asking for guidance to lift ourselves up out of our own tiny worlds, asking guidance to be kinder, or whatever help we need in life. Self work and self kindness every day in these small ways is a starting point.

“When you are able to get out of the shell of your small self, you will see that you are interrelated to everyone and everything, that your every act is linked with the whole of humankind and the whole cosmos. To keep yourself healthy in body and mind is to be kind to all beings.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

The feeling I experienced at those mass graves, that real pain, was good in my mind. It was a shocking reminder how connected we all are and how important it is to care. It has inspired me to check myself, to commit to cultivating a caring, kind heart, one that cares enough to attempt to understand, but also to act. We need bridges not division. A slightly hateful heart can become more hateful, closing off the heart’s beautiful capacity for love. Whereas a heart that continues to grow and expand is far less likely to hate and only contributes to more love in the world. Let’s love our human hearts and work to use their full capacity, unblocking, clearing, healing and cultivating kindness to others. Life is too short not to.
“With humility, with awareness of the existence of life, and of the suffering that are going on around us, let us practice the establishment of peace in our hearts and on earth.” – Thich Nhat Hanh


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